I like to think of my dog, Cuddles, as my third self. She is my first: my awareness, my perspective, my life. Everything she does is for me, but she is also her own third.
For Cuddles, she has her own personality and goals that she pursues. For example, she would not eat a piece of candy if she didn’t believe it would help her get to heaven. She would not go out in public with a man who was not her type unless she was sure he could get her to Heaven. Her goal in life is to always help me, even if it means just being my dog.
It’s a simple concept, but so simple that many of us don’t even realize we have it. If you’ve ever been in a relationship or friendship with a dog, you will probably be aware that you are your own third. This is because when you bond with your pets, you begin to think of them as members of your own family.
It might sound absurd, but the concept of a third person is surprisingly powerful. The way we relate to others involves a lot of internalized patterns, and when we begin to view our pets as members of our family, we begin to think of them as a third person as well. Because when we put our pets in a relationship, we think about them as our friends too.
For instance, when a dog is in a relationship with a person, it’s the dog that is the third person in the relationship. The dog can be the third party if the person has an agenda for the dog. Like a cat, a dog can be the third party in a relationship if it’s also a person.
The dog is the third person in the relationship. That’s not a bad idea in theory, but in practice it’s never that true. A dog isn’t the third person in a relationship because the dog isn’t a person. It’s because the dog is a dog and has the same rights as the person that the dog is the third person.
The dog is a dog, not a person, so its not a good idea to have a dog steal your spot in a relationship, but you can’t blame the dog. Its a dog. And a dog can be the third party in a relationship. In theory. In practice, its not that simple.
Its a simple problem though because your dog can still steal your spot in a relationship because the dog also has a spot in your relationship. When you own a dog, you own a spot in everything you own. If the dog steals your spot and your spot isnt the dog, then the dog isnt the third person in your relationship.
The problem is that people who have a dog may feel that the dog is being taken for granted. When a dog is stolen, people who have a dog feel that they have no rights to the spot in their relationship because the dog has a spot. The dog is not the third person in your relationship because it is a third party. The dog is not the third party because the dog owns you.
The only thing that makes a spot owner is the spot. The rest of the relationship is just a secondhand thing that has been handed down from dog to dog.